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Read more about the article Rediscovering the Art of Flirting

Rediscovering the Art of Flirting

  • Post author:Cate Mackenzie
  • Post published:May 17, 2023
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Flirting is not just about romantic pursuits; it is an art that opens the doorways to friendliness, sensuality, connection and fun. Flirting is the ‘lightness’ of communication, the playful and…

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Cate Mackenzie on having fun with dating

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  • Post published:February 23, 2023
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In this episode Cate Mackenzie chats with Karis McLaughlin about the ins and outs of dating. Cate is a love coach who supports individuals to build their confidence in dating…

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The story of Valentines

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  • Post published:February 14, 2023
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The story of Valentines is about a man who was in jail for his beliefs in his Christian God. This was in Roman times. The jailor asked this man to…

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The three rules of dating etiquette

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  • Post published:November 29, 2022
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Dating and connecting can seem quite daunting. It can bring up feelings of being tested or judged or fear of being found wanting. But from working with hundreds of people…

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Relationships resolutions for 2022

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  • Post published:January 1, 2022
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Couples, have you set any joint intentions for the year? It’s a great way to share a vision and move in the same direction together, as a team. Here are…

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Navigating commitment issues

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  • Post published:March 15, 2021
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Commitment issues can pose a challenge, whether you’re single and looking for a relationship, dating, or in a relationship. Whether you are the one that has difficulty with commitment, or…

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Couples therapy podcast with Denise Van Outen and Eddie Boxshall

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  • Post published:March 8, 2021
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I am part of a new podcast Before We Say I Do with Denise Van Outen and her partner Eddie Boxshall which has been top of the relationship podcast charts. Denise and…

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What does it mean to experiment during sex?

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  • Post published:September 10, 2020
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People have different expectations, sensibilities and openness in terms of sexuality. Some people enjoy creating their own sex menus and discovering new and different ways to explore their sexuality. This…

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Tips to feel sexy

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  • Post published:August 8, 2020
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Get into feeling innocent – allow yourself to let go and be friendly to lots of people with no expectation, seeing yourself as an engaging loving person. Give compliments, flirt…

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    Sometimes someone is emotionally available…but you Sometimes someone is emotionally available…but you cannot quite feel it!
They are consistent.
They show up.
They communicate clearly.
And yet something inside you does not fully relax.
There is no emotional rollercoaster.
No intensity.
No uncertainty.
Just steadiness.
For many people this can feel unfamiliar.
If you are used to relationships where connection comes with anxiety, unpredictability or emotional distance, calm availability can feel strangely quiet.
Almost as if something is missing.
But often what is missing is not attraction.
It is the nervous system pattern you have learned to associate with love.
Healthy emotional availability tends to feel slower.
Softer.
More spacious. 🍃
It allows connection to grow without tension.
And sometimes it takes time for the body and heart to recognise that this kind of steadiness is actually safe. 💜
This is something I often explore with clients, especially when they notice themselves feeling drawn to intensity while overlooking the connections that could truly support them.
What about you…
Have you ever realised later that someone was offering more than you could receive at the time? 💬
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    I'd like to share a quiet truth about dating with I'd like to share a quiet truth about dating with you today ⭐
Many people think they are being rejected for who they are.
But often, something else is happening.
Without even noticing it, they begin performing.
Trying to be a little more impressive.
A little more interesting.
A little more agreeable.
A little more like the person they think the other person might want.
The problem is that real connection does not happen with a performance.
It happens in the moments when someone is relaxed enough to simply be themselves.
When conversation becomes natural.
When curiosity replaces strategy.
When you stop managing how you are perceived.
Ironically, the more someone tries to be impressive in dating, the harder it becomes for the other person to feel who they actually are.
And that real presence is what people connect to. ✨
Real attraction grows when someone feels genuine, open, and at ease in themselves.
Not when they feel polished.
Just present. 🌿
If this is something you notice in your dating life, it can be very powerful to explore what helps you feel safe enough to be real.
Sometimes having a guide helps us see these patterns more clearly.
I work with individuals and couples on exactly this. 💜
What about you?
Where do you notice yourself performing in relationships?

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    Something I often notice in relationships… 🕯️ Many Something I often notice in relationships… 🕯️
Many couples stop flirting once the relationship begins to feel secure.
In the early days, there is often curiosity.
Playfulness.
A spark of attention between two people. 🎇
But over time, something subtle can happen.
Daily life takes over.
Conversations become practical.
The playful energy that once lived between you slowly fades into routine.
Not because the love has disappeared.
But because many people think flirting belongs only to the beginning of a relationship.
In reality, flirting is simply a form of attention. 💞
It is the small smile across the room.
The playful comment.
The way you look at someone when you are fully present with them.
These small moments remind your partner that they are not just your partner in life.
They are also someone you are still curious about.
Playfulness keeps connection alive.
It brings warmth, lightness and desire back into the everyday.
Sometimes the smallest gestures can reopen a feeling of closeness that has quietly gone missing.
And when couples lose that sense of playfulness, it is often something we gently rediscover together in coaching.
I often help couples reconnect with that spark and bring a sense of lightness and curiosity back into their relationship. 💜
What about you…
What kind of playfulness keeps connection alive in your relationship?

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    A lot of people mistake chemistry for compatibilit A lot of people mistake chemistry for compatibility. ✨

That powerful feeling of attraction. The butterflies. The pull. The excitement. It can feel like proof that something meaningful is happening.

But chemistry often reflects intensity, not necessarily emotional safety.
Compatibility shows up differently.
It looks like ease in conversation.
Feeling comfortable being yourself.
Respect for each other’s needs.
A sense that your nervous system can relax. 🌿

The most fulfilling relationships usually include both.
Attraction that excites you.
And connection that feels grounding.
One without the other often creates imbalance.

A reflection to consider.
Do you tend to choose relationships that feel intense, or relationships where you can truly relax? 💭
If this is a pattern you are exploring, I work with individuals and couples on exactly this.
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    Want to Meet Someone, But Hate Dating Apps? ✨ You Want to Meet Someone, But Hate Dating Apps? ✨

You are not alone.

Many people I work with say they would much rather meet someone in real life than on an app.

One gentle way to do this is through shared activities.

When you are doing something together, the pressure disappears. You are not trying to impress or perform. You are simply sharing an experience.

It might be a cooking class.
Learning a language.
Rock climbing.
Life drawing.
A talk at a bookshop.
Even saying hello to someone at a comedy night.

Connection often grows in these simple moments.

And it can help to arrive with a little curiosity. A book you have enjoyed, a podcast you have listened to, something that invites conversation.

Sometimes meeting someone begins with the smallest moment of openness 🤍

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