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Just Shake the Cake

  • Post author:Cate Mackenzie
  • Post published:March 24, 2026
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I’ve been thinking about my grandfather, Gordon. When I was seventeen, my sister and I travelled with him to Brazil, the country where he truly lived from the age of…

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Dating After Divorce: Flirting, Healing, and Finding Your Confidence Again

  • Post author:Cate Mackenzie
  • Post published:August 20, 2025
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Change is the one constant in life. As the Buddhists remind us, it’s inevitable, and sometimes it brings with it challenges we didn’t ask for. Whether it’s navigating divorce, supporting…

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Deep Brain Reorienting! 

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  • Post published:June 6, 2025
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Pictured above is Armukara Angel, Vinny Jones and me in the Ceremony Dome at The Mind Body Spirit Festival last Sunday where I ran an "Open Your Heart" session. I…

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Summer with Your Love Coach

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  • Post published:May 23, 2025
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Can you feel it? That soft shimmer of summertime just beginning to stretch across the days — a time of renewal, clarity, and blossoming possibilities. As the seasons shift, it’s…

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Spring Is Here

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  • Post published:May 1, 2025
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I hope my readers are enjoying these warmer, brighter days as much as I am!  Recently, I have been “on tour” to Glasgow, Edinburgh, Leeds, Birmingham and London whilst simultaneously…

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A Strange Journey

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  • Post published:April 3, 2025
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I hope you are well. I have had the life-transforming experience of being on tour to Scotland with my attachment talks and running a six-week attachment online course, plus breaking…

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Getting Loved-Up!

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  • Post published:March 14, 2025
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I am writing to share a lovely story of hope around dating, which you can read about below and a tip on love languages. Also, I am on tour in…

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Harmony Rupture Despair Vs Harmony Rupture Repair

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  • Post published:January 25, 2025
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I am really thrilled to be running a six week online course on attachment theory, designed to help one explore their own attachment and needs, but also how to respond to…

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Happy New Year!

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  • Post published:January 1, 2025
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There is so much going on in the world, and so many people need love and care. It seems that community is becoming more and more essential, and I am…

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Merry Christmas!

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  • Post published:December 20, 2024
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I wanted to write a little message to wish you well. This time of year can be simple for some and complex for others. Some people do not celebrate Christmas, so…

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    Do you find yourself feeling confused by other peo Do you find yourself feeling confused by other people’s reactions?

One minute they’re distant. The next, they’re intense.
And you’re left wondering what you did wrong.

It can feel personal. It often does.

But sometimes, it’s not about you.
It’s about how someone’s nervous system is responding in that moment.

When people feel activated, they might pull away, come on strong, or react in ways that don’t quite make sense.

And sometimes, they project those feelings onto you.

The good news is, this is something we can understand.
And when we do, relationships can start to feel a lot clearer and a lot less overwhelming.

Does this sound familiar?

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    A thought about love today… Sometimes relationshi A thought about love today…

Sometimes relationships feel confusing not because something is “wrong”… but because two people are loving from very different emotional worlds.

Some people are like sea turtles. They move slowly, steadily, needing space, rhythm, and safety in their own timing.

Others are more like open water swimmers, seeking closeness, reassurance, and emotional presence to feel secure.

Neither is wrong. But without understanding, it can feel like rejection… or too much.

This is often what we’re really experiencing in attachment dynamics. Not a lack of love, but a difference in how love is expressed, received, and felt.

The shift happens when we stop personalising the difference, and start becoming curious about it.

Because connection doesn’t grow from forcing sameness, it grows from understanding each other’s emotional language.

And learning how to meet somewhere in between.

What kind of “sea creature” do you notice yourself being in relationships?

If this resonates, my coaching sessions are open. I work with individuals and couples on exactly this.

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    A small moment… that holds a lot. There’s somethi A small moment… that holds a lot.

There’s something quietly vulnerable about sharing a piece of yourself in a public space.
Not just being seen, but being felt, interpreted, experienced by others.

This week, one of my paintings is part of The Rocketvan Spring Exhibition at The Rocketvan Spring Exhibition,
92 Brandon Street, London SE17 1AL.

From Thursday 30th April to Sunday May 3rd.

And I found myself reflecting on how similar this feels to love.

Because love asks the same thing of us.
To reveal something real.
To let ourselves be seen without fully controlling how we’ll be received.

And that’s not always comfortable.

But it is where connection begins.

Art, like intimacy, is not about perfection.
It is about honesty, presence, expression.
Allowing something inside you to take form, and trusting that it is enough.

Maybe that’s the invitation here.
Not just to view the work, but to notice what it brings up in you.

What moves you.
What opens.
What feels familiar.

Because those moments often tell us more about ourselves than we expect.

If you’re nearby, you’re very welcome to come and experience it in person.

What does being seen feel like for you lately?

If you visit, I’d genuinely love to hear what you felt.
    Do you ever catch yourself going into “defensive m Do you ever catch yourself going into “defensive mode” in your relationships?

That moment where you think, hang on, you’ve got this completely wrong… but somehow, things only escalate from there.

It can feel frustrating, especially when you’re trying to be understood and it just isn’t landing.

Sometimes, it’s not about being right. It’s about finding a few more words. A different way in. A way to let someone into your world, and to step into theirs too.

If you’re feeling stuck in the same patterns or tired of the argy bargy, it might be worth exploring that with support.

Couples counselling, or even individual sessions, can help you shift the way you communicate and reconnect more calmly.

Have you noticed yourself becoming defensive in certain situations?

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#relationships #communicationmatters #couplestherapy #emotionalintelligence #selfawareness

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